I sat in bed this morning, half-sleeping, half-dreaming about making a toast, more like a speech, at my wedding, which is exactly one week from today. I decided not to write it all down and just wing it when the time comes. But the message and the tone are dialed, I know what it’s going to sound like. I also know I had better have a few in me before it happens, just for a looser feel.
Thinking this morning made me realize the extremely diverse nature of all of the people who will be in the “crowd” when I make a toast at the wedding. A wide range of ages, religious and artistic sensibilities, and family histories will be there. Some people will have just met me, some will have known me since the day I first breathed air. There will be people there who know me better than anyone, and I hope to even surprise them a little.
This whole thing seems like a big surprise to me, still. The fact that I am so close to getting married to a woman who is not only the love of my life, but my best friend and the best thing that’s ever happened to me is simply overwhelming and even though it’s been over a year and a half, it’s still unbelievable. I still feel like it’s new, it’s a new feeling to be in love every day and have someone love you the same right back. And it’s totally new to be comfortable saying that!
I remember wondering if I’d ever find someone like Meghan, someone who could “deal” with me and even love the weird things about me. I remember thinking I had no idea how that could happen, I did not know what to do to get there. And when it happened, I remember thinking that I should not try too hard or do anything to jeopardize what could be the best thing ever. I guess I did well enough cause here we are.
I could not be happier and I am not going to go into the reasons why, but there are all of the reasons you could think of. There’s nothing missing. I am also not going to spoil the words I composed this morning in my head, I think they are still there. When I asked Meghan to marry me, which was the craziest day of my life, I wrote a bunch of words down to remember them, not read from them. I think she still has those, and I think I got them all out without referring to the note.
So, Meghan will be excited that she is the centerpiece of a post on Vinceland. Currently, she’s out with the girls getting toes painted and having fruity, alcoholic cocktails. In a few days, we’ll fly to Vermont and then the madness begins. Family, friends, new faces, big big events, center of attention, etc… I am positive I have no idea what to expect, nor do I realize the importance or gravity of the situation. But I have a toast in my head, one that I hope will sum things up for everyone and help give meaning to our wedding not only for the guests, but for Meghan and I also. I am sure I will know more when we get back, I am sure there will be more revelations.
Here’s to living and loving.
15 responses so far ↓
1 your future wife // Aug 20, 2006 at 11:43 am
this is the best post you have ever made!
i love you!
2 Vince LaVecchia // Aug 20, 2006 at 11:45 am
I knew you were watching!
3 Jess // Aug 20, 2006 at 2:12 pm
You guys are the best!!! xoxo
4 Draplin // Aug 20, 2006 at 7:09 pm
Does Meghan have a sister? Or maybe a cousin? I need a wife real bad.
You guys are great. “Bravo” from the DDC.
5 Vince LaVecchia // Aug 20, 2006 at 10:09 pm
AJD: Her sister is married with 2 lil’ beauties. I have some advice for finding women on the road trip: Try less harder, be nice to everyone. I know that sounds like what you’ve been doing, but it works. If’n it don’t work, it ain’t supposed ‘ta.
6 Cory Bayers // Aug 21, 2006 at 1:57 am
Congratulations!
Josee and I were thinking about you last night. Enjoy the whole event - take it all in.
7 your future wife // Aug 21, 2006 at 8:10 am
aaron. i have lots of single friends. i will find you when i get back. : ) be ready! is gary ready for a lady in his life?
8 J. O'Shea // Aug 21, 2006 at 8:12 am
it’s a very surreal feeling to have all those people from your life in one place. i’m happy that i’ll be in that group and i’m happy that i’ll be able to tackle you late night and help to further soil what will surely be a soiled suit by that point.
have some kids you puss.
p.s. you’re nice and beautiful. and i’m excited for you both.
9 rebecca // Aug 21, 2006 at 9:42 am
Congrats to you both! The toast will be great. Speak from the heart (like you did in this post.. awwwww!) and it will be perfect.
Have a great time! Lets celebrate when the LaVecchias return to Portland. rg
10 Vince LaVecchia // Aug 21, 2006 at 11:28 am
I was considering speaking from the booze. Is that not the way to go?
11 your future wife // Aug 21, 2006 at 2:12 pm
no. it is not.
12 vince lavecchia // Aug 27, 2006 at 1:33 pm
Married. Best ever. Feels great. Fiji next. See you in 10 days. Thanks to all of our family and friends.
13 your hot new wife // Aug 28, 2006 at 8:21 am
i picked out a new screen name.
14 Catzel LaVecchia Bumpus // Sep 1, 2006 at 4:09 pm
Hey Vin -
I hope you guys are having a super time away… think of you every day. The wedding was awesome… you would have loved the lake house - we had a great couple of days there. We talked about you two alot there…
Love you,
Catz
15 August Is Running at Vinceland // Aug 14, 2007 at 4:19 pm
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