Vinceland

I got married to Meghan Pruitt on August 26, 2006, just a couple of weeks ago. Since then, we flew to Fiji, spent 10 days in paradise, snorkelled for hours, came back and went back to work. We’re relaxed, refreshed, and came back to shitty fall Northwest weather.

Now that we’re back, the big question is: (No, not about kids…) “So do you feel any different?”

Our goals are not very different. In fact, not much is or feels different EXCEPT: Everything feels much more important. Much more official. Much more real-life style.

No longer do my decisions only affect to me. No longer can I spend money frivolously on boats and other motorized devices without first thinking about another person. No longer can I take risks in anything without thinking of the consequences on more than just me.

So my feelings now are not much different, but more validated and important. I’ve never felt so much in the right place as I do now. From Portland to Meghan to Instrument to Vinceland, things are the way I’d want them to be if I looked ahead from 2 years ago. Except I am not fishing enough, that’s for dang sure. And I am farther away from Vermont, family and friends. But other than that, all good.

How was the wedding? Perfect. Fast. Amazing. Overwhelming. Great. Fun. Other people had a great time, and I believe them when they tell us how good/ fun it was. I got to see and spend time with people and friends and family members all in one place, from many many walks of life. I wrote a speech that people liked. Maybe I’ll post some of it here.

Well, to answer the question in the title of this entry:

• Because you find a best friend that you find very attractive.
• Because you find it very easy to spend time with someone whom you find very attractive.
• Because your new best friend makes you laugh when you least expect it, and most need it.
• Because your friend makes your life better by inspiring you to act nicer, do better things, be healtier and work harder.
• Because you can sense in someone the honest, genuine desire to enjoy time with you, regardless of the “conditions”.
• Because it’s great, great, great to throw the biggest party of your life and invite as many of the important people in your life that a budget will handle.
• Because you believe that the inevitable compromises you will make are more than worth the benefits of living your life with someone who is beautiful, supportive, funny, interesting and successful.
• Because it’s time to grow up and commit to something you believe in, and something you believe is a good thing, even though it’s harder.
• Because there’s NO question.
• Because your friends and family love her/ him.
• Because it’s an experience that defines your life…makes it worth living.
• Because you consider your attractive best friend someone you would share the ups and downs of parenthood with.
• Because it’s fun to jump off a cliff, hand in hand, wearing nice clothes, with the right person.

So now we’ll go on. I’ll write about Fiji a bit. And for images I will direct you to: Flickr Vinceland and Meghan’s blog.
Feel free to add to this list. I’ve only been married about 3 weeks, so I am sure you all know more than me…